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In the run up to the London Olympics there has been an alarming targeting of sex workers in London, especially in those boroughs where the Olympics are being staged. Closing brothels and displacing street workers have dangerous consequences for sex workers. Safety of sex workers should be the priority, not the specific targeting of sex workers because of unfounded and unproven fears over sex trafficking. This is simply biased and prejudiced policing relying on generated hysteria as an excuse to close brothels.

I urge all of our readers, if you live in London or not, if you are a sex worker or not, to sign this open letter that will be handed to Boris Johnson the Lord Mayor.

You can read the complete letter with links and other comments “HERE”

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Sign the open letter to the Mayor of London

Boris Johnson
Mayor of London
Greater London Authority
City Hall, The Queen’s Walk
London SE1 2AA

Dear Mr Johnson,

Stop the Arrests Campaign is concerned that the policing of sex workers and sex establishments in the lead-up to the Olympics threatens to compromise the safety and autonomy of sex workers. In light of this, we are calling for a moratorium on arrests, detention and deportation of sex workers with immediate effect until the end of the Olympic
Games in London.

We are aware of “clean-up efforts” targeting sex workers and sex establishments that are underway in London, particularly east London, in the run up to the Olympics. These efforts are partly a response to the claim – made by governments, charity organisations and campaign groups – that the Olympics will lead to an increase in trafficking for prostitution. This is despite the fact that there is no evidence that large sporting events cause an
increase in trafficking.

These include multiple raids and closure of premises, which have resulted in arbitrary arrests, detention and deportation of people working in the sex industry. This creates a climate of fear among workers, leaving them less likely to report crimes against them and more vulnerable to abuse and exploitation. It is an inadequate response to sex work and to
trafficking.

Last December in Barking & Dagenham a violent gang carried out a series of robberies on brothels at knife point. Sex workers were deterred from pursuing the attacks after police threatened them with prosecution. Thus many more were attacked and one woman was raped. Once the police agreed to an amnesty from arrest sex workers were able to come
forward.

In light of this, we are calling on yourself, in cooperation with the London Metropolitan Police and UK Border Agency, to suspend arrests, detention and deportation of sex workers using, or during enforcement of, the criminal laws laid out in Appendix 1.

We await your positive response.

Sincerely,

Stop the Arrests

The following organisations and individuals have signed up to the Stop The Arrests campaign.“HERE”

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Am I a feminist ? Absofeckinlutely, but here’s the thing, I am what you might call a traditional feminist. To me that means that as women, we are equal to men, not superior. Oh sure, we carry the can when it comes to childcare etc, but don’t we expect a lot of our menfolk too ? If you subscribe to the age old stereotype then man should be the hunter, slaying a mammoth for dinner or at the very least beating up the guy next door because he peered at “his woman” over the geraniums. These days, and in times of recession then it’s whoever has a job hangs onto it for dear life, conforming to stereotypes for the sake of it can lead to poverty, relationship breakdowns and a serious compromise to the welfare of the children, that’s a fact. 

 
A long time ago and in a doctor’s waiting room far away, I was busying myself by reading the gardening section of a Sunday Times magazine, (I hate gardening). I was praying to anyone who would listen that the very elderly lady beside me wouldn’t try and strike up a conversation. (I know, but I was in a dreadful mood and really not in the humour for a conversation around the useful properties of figs in the treatment of constipation.) As it turns out, I’m very glad she did strike up a conversation because we ended up so lost in our exchange that the receptionist had to bellow my name to get my attention. Eunice (not her real name, not that it matters) told me that as a young girl she worked for a number of years in a factory, before falling in love with a dubious cad who went on to become her husband of some 40 years. (He was a bastard apparently, but she still missed him every day.) Eunice became the first woman to successfully challenge the rule in that factory that all married women had to give up their jobs to become home makers. This was in a time where the woman’s place was very definitely in the kitchen, as a matter of fact under Irish law, until relatively recently, a woman was considered a “chattel”, no better than furniture, and there was no such thing as marital rape. I’ll just say that again. THERE WAS NO SUCH THING AS MARITAL RAPE, once you were married you were automatically deemed to have given consent, ergo, your husband could do as he liked and there was nothing you could do about it.
 
Further, I can remember when the proposed legislative change to the divorce laws in Ireland came up for consideration. Night after night we sat watching RTE broadcasts of Catholic priests urging us to consider our faith and our pledges in marriage, to divorce was to fly in the face of The Vatican and those who sought a divorce would surely burn in the fires of hell. So, if your husband broke your jaw, or regularly beat your children to within an inch of their lives, tough. You were married for better or worse, brush that hair and be sure to be at Mass at 10am on Sunday, in case the neighbours talked.
 
When it comes to feminism, I don’t believe that I should burn my bra, aside from anything else, have you ANY idea how much that cost ? Also, I don’t think throwing myself beneath a horse or chaining myself to the railings of Holyrood will achieve much either, well it would certainly get press coverage for whatever cause it is I’m proposing to champion, but ultimately, I think I would look pretty foolish. I wouldn’t consider myself a “radical” feminist either, quite obviously I don’t believe that every time I allow a client to have sex with me it is rape and I am letting down “The Sisterhood”. It’s been an age since I’ve looked at actus reus or mens rea but I’m pretty sure that the burden of proof rests upon a lack of consent. As a sex worker, when I have finally untied a submissive male and as a “reward”, allow him to have some sexual favours with me then to be honest I’m struggling to see who is consenting in that situation.
 
As I have declared myself a feminist, you’d be forgiven for thinking that I probably should and have read “The Female Eunuch”. The answer to that would be a resounding ‘no’, because I have no great desire to taste my own menstrual blood and further, given my own curly mop then I resent, yes I said RESENT, Greer’s pop at Suzanne Moore for her back combed hair, (sigh). See I’m not a selective feminist either, I don’t subscribe to the notion that there is an elite group of women who are entitled to give themselves the title of feminist and to hell with everyone else. Either you support ALL women in their given choices or you don’t, it’s that simple.
 
So what do I believe in then, as a feminist in the very old fashioned “I have so reclaimed this word” kinda way ? It’s very simple really. Like Eunice, I believe I have the choice to work, quite legally, without fear and the overhanging threat of intimidation, and stigma. That’s all.
 
I don’t ask you to place me on a pedestal, I don’t ask you to declare me as superior to the male sex, I don’t ask for any “special” treatment whatsoever. I simply ask you to respect my right to work as a sex worker, to make the informed choices that I make every day, without recourse to a “nanny state” which seeks to impose sanction on me, or my client.
 
In that regard, I ask my readers to consider the latest proposals from Rhoda Grant which will be tabled shortly in Holyrood. Ms. Grant is seeking to have a bill approved which will make it illegal for my clients to come to me as a perfectly willing and happy provider, and pay for my services.
 
The link is here, and I will write on it further as it develops.
 
Laura Lee
 
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    REVIEW OF
    “JOURNEY TO THE DARK GODDESS”
    by Jane Meredith

I choose to review this book because it deals with issues that many sex workers face in their work. Both as sex workers and as sex workers dealing with clients; we often have to deal with often bewildering, confusing and sometimes uncomfortable issues. These could be others perceptions of our work or our clients often complicated sexual problems, their fetishes, their often confused sexuality, their emotional relationship with sex, with others. Critics of sex work often fail, (deliberately) to truly comprehend the extend that emotion, empathy and compassion are vital if a sex worker is to be successful. Sex work is not all about sex, despite the fantasies of anti sex work propagandists. This book; if you are a Pagan or not suggests, that the “bad” things in life are not to be feared but instead can actually be a source of strength for us and for others.

Sometime it is hard to understand or to rationalise the “bad” things that we all experience, death, illness, relationship break ups, unemployment, depression, the list is almost endless. We are taught; perhaps even expected within our society to at best suffer these events stoically or worse to ignore them or to treat them as things to be suffered and then forgotten about as quickly as possible. Bad things detract us from our constant pursuit of happiness, pleasure, success. Rarely within so called “New age spirituality” is the dark side of life, the dark Goddess, presented as anything other than something to be avoided.
Jane Meredith in her book “Journey to the dark Goddess”, asks us to embrace the darkness, to welcome the bad things that happen and to not be frightened of them. They are, she argues, part of the natural cycle of life. They allow the body and the mind to reset, rebalance as it were. Once you understand this; you honestly feel somehow lighter and less pessimistic. This simple, natural reasoning applies not only to the personal but to all aspects of life, of society, even the economy and that; if embraced, gives a clearer understanding of and acceptance of the ups and downs we all experience.
Through a series of meditations, rituals and explorations of Goddess mythologies (Inanna, Persephone, Pysche) Jane Meredith invites the reader on a journey of self discovery. We are invited to welcome the dark Goddess and to understand the dark Goddess as compassion.
A wonderful book that; although predominantly written for women (I would ask why), is a book that I would highly recommend for everyone regardless of gender or sexual orientation. (4. star rating).
By Douglas Fox,

Book is available to purchase“HERE” from Amazon.

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I was delighted to be congratulated by Aphrodite Phoenix on a paper that I recently presented at the Brunel university sexual cultures conference.

Aphrodite asked me if I would be interested in reading and possible reviewing her book “Are they bad girls or brilliant?” I was delighted to be asked and agreed at once.

The book is actually two books in one. The first is entitled “A personal journey” and book two is called “18 audacious essays”.

The first book primarily details her experiences working as an escort in the USA. Aphrodite tells us about her reasons for joining the business, her family life, illness and tragedies and joys and also about her intellectual journey and her spiritual awakening through her work as an escort. In book two Aphrodite gives us her thoughts about feminism and sex worker activism through a series of essays. She includes an idealised manifesto for a sex worker future where sex work is once again revered and understood as a positive force within society.

I found myself agreeing with so much in this book which reaches out both to the public and academics. It is an easy and enjoyable read that is also insightful and positive.

Aphrodite’s experiences as an escort in many ways resembled my own experiences. Her thoughts about her work, her views on activism and about feminism also mirrored in many instances my own thoughts.

Her book intriguingly is titled “Are they bad girls or brilliant?”. She used the question mark because she wants her book to answer the questions that an outsider to the sex industry may want to ask in order to understand why someone like her would enter the sex trade. She leaves the answer to the question posed in the title however, to the reader.

This is a journey that we can all empathise with in so many ways. Aphrodite, for example, describes in an early chapter; entitled, “Just an afternoon of terror and joy”, the mixture of excitement and terror that escorts in the USA, where prostitution is a criminal offense, feel when meeting a new client. That excitement is however tinged with a real sense of danger. The fear is not that the client may be dangerous but rather that the meeting may be a police sting. The danger, the fear felt by the escort is also experienced by the client who is equally fearful of a police sting on him, because in the USA the client also is criminalised. The sense of relief felt by both the escort and the client as they hug and discreetly frisk each other for hidden wires is palpable. It is a story of two people in danger, not of criminals.
At the end of that chapter Aphrodite gives an early explanation for why she is prepared to risk arrest. She writes:

“I walk back through the bustling housekeepers. We resume all those sweet wordless greetings. My heart goes out to them now. I think of all the cleanings they have to do, and how, as with me, their work is performed for strangers. They purge away dust, lint, litter, loose hairs. Used sheets, semen-streaked towels like the one I’ve just left behind, tub scum, toilet filth…I consider their low pay. I consider how awful some people think my work is. How much “worse” it must be for the maid’s.
I think of the pleasure I give. I think of the stress I relieve. I think of how I do it all-naturally. Not Toxically. Not pharmaceutically.
And I think of the money I make.
I feel so good I could shout.”

I think this just about sums up how most sex workers feel about their work when criticised for their choices. I am sure the public will also sympathise with the fear and ask; where is the crime?

I also felt a personal resonance when Aphrodite describes how sex work has had a positive effect upon both her physical health and mental well being. She understands this as part of her personal awakening to an awareness of Goddess worship. She describes (with many references) the fact that healing once was the preserve of women and that part of that healing process was sexual healing. The sacredness of sex as practiced by priestesses who were also sacred prostitutes resonates through out the book.

Aphrodite describes her life as an escort as a learning experience, a journey of discovery. It is an experience in which she learns not only about herself but also about the human condition. She writes:

“I INTUITED RIGHT FROM THE ONSET, THAT SEX WORK CAN BE HEALTHY BECAUSE SEX WORK CAN BE SPIRITUAL”.

Aphrodite goes on to say:

“I was a mother, homemaker, gardener, exerciser, healer, writer and whore. All were seamlessly, wholly, my path”.

“Are they bad girls or brilliant?” is a revelatory vision of a woman’s journey of discovery. It is the story not of a “Happy hooker”, and many will try and dismiss her as such, but of a real woman who falls in love, is arrested, brings up children, is a mother, who copes with illness and loss and does all of this while also being a sex worker.
This is a story of an intelligent and well read woman whose intellectual and emotional journey has resulted in the writing of a book that will become a classic.

This book is available exclusively as an ebook from Aphrodite’s web site “HERE”.

The book will also be available in good old fashioned print very soon. Details will be available on Aphrodite’s web site and also from Harlots Parlour.

I genuinely recommend this book….enjoy and please write and leave reviews.

Both myself and Aphrodite will be speaking on the Charlie Spice show tonight at 8pm UK time. We will be discussing the book and coming out as a sex worker activist.

Please join us: “HERE”

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I was delighted to appear with Catherine Stephens on the Charlie Spice radio show yesterday (May 7th). It was, as usual, an interesting discussion about sex work in the UK. For those who were unable to catch the show, a link is available below that will allow you to listen to it again.

I will also be appearing with Aphrodite Phoenix this coming Thursday May 10th to discuss her new book “?” in which, she discusses her life and experiences as an escort in the USA. Phoenix, also talks about her spiritual awakening as well as other issues related to her life as a sex worker. We also hope to talk about coming out as a sex worker and as a sex worker activist. I am sure it will be an interesting conversation.

My personal review of Aphrodite Phoenix’s book will be on Harlots very soon.

Please listen in and if you can please contribute and support the Charlie Spice show. It is so important that sex workers have a media space that is theirs; where they can discuss the reality of their work rather than being spoken about in the usual stereotypes that is so common in the general media.

Please spread the word.

Enjoy.
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