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Reblogged from Sia in Edinburgh:

I've often wondered what it’s like in strip or lap dancing clubs. I finally found out during my last visit to London. I was curious about how the girls behave and even more intrigued about how the men behave. As an escort I was also interested in finding out how dancers view themselves and their decisions to become dancers. Another thing I wondered about was whether they thought that dancing was somehow “better” than escorting.

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I’ve often wondered what it’s like in strip or lap dancing clubs. I finally found out during my last visit to London. I was curious about how the girls behave and even more intrigued about how the men behave. As an escort I was also interested in finding out how dancers view themselves and their decisions to become dancers. Another thing I wondered about was whether they thought that dancing was somehow “better” than escorting. Apart from the sociological aspects of it I was also very curious about my own reaction and how I would behave and whether I would find the experience erotic…I am happy to report that I did!
Read More I enjoyed reading your article. I am slightly surprised you have not visited any of the numerous lap dancing clubs in Edinburgh. Maybe opportunity, and of course discretion. Yes it's a shame sex workers have these strata, and some dancers don't consider escorts worthy. It's the same with porn stars, often looking down on prostitutes. These strata divide sex workers. We need to unite, prostitutes, dancers, cam girls, porn actors are all under attack by the abolitionists. Divided we fall, United we will succeed. I also get annoyed by the LGBT groups who often condemn prostitution, sex work is stigmatised, don't these groups, (I include Stephen Fry here because he is often supporting abolitionist anti trafficking organisations) forget the stigma and the dangerous laws that affected them. I would hope they would support decriminalisation, as a way to may our lives safer as it did for them.  

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I have been asked by a sex worker friend who has written a superb book if I would help. She is trying to raise funds to promote her book to reach as wide an audience as possible. Like many authors today she is self publishing. Getting book deals, even with a well written book is not easy and even if an author does secure a deal the chances of making any money from their work is virtually nil for lots of reason. This is why many authors are now self publishing, Self publishing allows authors control over their work and gives them a greater return on sales. The big draw back however is that you have to promote and advertise your work which costs money.
I have read this particular book and have previously written a review for it on Harlots. It is very good and as Aphrodite suggests could be very useful in the battle for rights. If you could help her raise the funding she needs to publicise her work so that it will reach the widest audience I am sure she would be very grateful. Every piece of work helps in the battle for rights.
It would also be helpful if other bloggers could help publicise the book and of course I urge readers to purchase the book.

Below is her email explaining what she is doing.

I am a sex worker and author/advocate for sex workers’ rights. I have
written a book entitled Are They Bad Girls or Brilliant?. If you visit the
book website, http://www.aphroditephoenix.com, you’ll find excerpts and rave
reviews.

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The print version just came out on Amazon and I will soon be presenting
the Kindle version at an extremely low price.

I am confident that if fence-riders read this book, their views about sex
work, the human rights of sex workers, and a woman’s right to choose the
work will morph to wholehearted support. I feel that my arguments are so
powerfully presented, written with such emotional appeal, and are so
well-sourced, that even if the extreme opposition experiences this book,
many will find themselves dismantling their views.

I am seeking help to promote this book in order to enlighten the world
about the true nature of sex work, which is empowering for independent sex
workers, healing for clients, and eternally and rightfully needed. Any
donation, no matter how small, will help with the promotion. Go to
http://www.gofundme.com/2p55qw if you’d like to contribute. Thank you so
much!

Sincerely,

Aphrodite Phoenix

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One of the reasons I love sex work is the freedom. That word “Freedom” may have sex work abolitionists reaching for their Kalashnikovs and screaming elitist and in fact it will probably have some sex worker activists doing the same. Sex work however, what ever its detractors may say, is one of the few areas of work that allows the worker a wide variety of choices in how they work, where they work and when they work. It is also one of the few areas of work that provides a relatively good instant return, cash in hand, for those with out qualifications or with few choices or options and who need to make money quickly and anonymously. It is also an option equally for those who aspire and also for those who would never comfortably fit into orthodox society. Sex work has for myself provided support while I created other businesses and carved out other creative opportunities. I, unlike many people, have been incredibly lucky because I have always chosen how I want to work and have enjoyed those choices. Few people can say that about their work life.

This unique freedom within sex work is something rarely talked about but in essence is an essential reason for why sex work survives and flourishes no matter how oppressive any regimes sanctions against it. There will always be those in any society who need to or who chooses to look for work that is often chaotic, marginalised but never the less is profitable and flexible.

Sex is one of those few areas of human activity which requires, maintains and welcomes diverse, sometimes chaotic, always individualistic and often marginalised individuals who are willing to service the human sexual imagination. Governments and moralists may not like this truth but never the less they will always be thwarted in their attempts to control human sexuality because orthodox society will always fantasise and there will always be individuals who will service those fantasies, those needs.

Anti sex work groups, so called feminists and moralists will always collude to excite governments into persecuting sex workers, they will reinvent the language of moralism and oppression to service current political angsts, such as gender equality or some new ideal of saving women unwilling to behave correctly. Ultimately however they will fail because they always ignore the unpalatable truth that sex work is not oppression for women (or men) but an opportunity. It may be an opportunity taken after all orthodox channels have failed but never the less sex work provides what moralists can’t and that is a “real” means to achieve a real “goal”.

Saving “fallen women” and then offering them poor choices, such as become a “domestic, learn to sew, flip burgers” and other alternatives that fail to meet the aspirations of women and men who have chosen sex work exhibits an ignorance of human nature, human ambition. What these moralists and so called feminists are truly doing is revealing the condescension implicit in any moral crusade, implicit when ever the privileged condescend to help those they consider less privileged. Their ideal being that we will make those “saved” like us except of course the saved women or men in truth will never be like their saviours, they will always be, if no longer “fallen” women, then “saved women” which carries as much societal stigma. Guilt has never put food on the table but sex work delivers. Obviously people will fail in sex work. Sex work is work, even if sometimes chaotic and like all work it requires a degree of commitment and a certain mindset. Sex work is not for every one but that is no reason to persecute all sex workers or to deliberately make their work unnecessarily dangerous.

History has proven that it is impossible to regulate or control sex work by imposing legislation that reflects a moralist agenda. Such legislation has always had negative consequences for sex workers. Governments must instead eventually prioritise the human rights and the safety of sex workers. To do this means that governments will eventually have to look to decriminalise laws that make sex work dangerous. Governments negotiating to decriminalise must however learn to listen to the many diverse voices and experiences within sex work. Most important is that governments in creating any future legislation must resist their natural desire to over regulate the ungovernable. Over regulation, even if done with the best intentions does not work with sex work. History has shown that over regulation often creates opportunities for exploitation and fails sex workers. Future government regulation will need to be flexible enough to engage with the diverse nature of sex work and the people who work in the industry and like wise sex worker activists engaged in negotiation must also be flexible and pragmatic.

Sex worker activists who speak to government must be realistic in negotiating with orthodoxy in order to achieve the maximum protection for the greater number of sex workers. As sex workers we learn to negotiate in our work and we must use those same skills when negotiating with authorities to achieve a desired outcome. Decriminalisation is not rocket science but to achieve it we need sex work activists with imagination. Activists in turn need the support of an industry that is willing to explain that sex work provides for huge numbers a unique means to an end which hurts few but calms, enchants and pleases many. Sex workers are part of society who do not want honours, rather they prefer anonymity. Sex workers however do want respect and understanding and most importantly protection.

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I would like to say a huge thank you to all those who follow Harlots Parlour on twitter. Caroline as many people know handed Harlots to myself and Catherine Stephens to run a few years ago. Over that time we have made changes to Harlots and have encouraged and welcomed new authors and contributors. We hope we have continued Caroline’s objective which was to provide a forum for a variety of views and opinions within sex work and about sex work.

The Twitter account was set up by Caroline Shepherd who has now moved on. The problem is neither Catherine Stephens or myself are able to access the twitter account to answer questions, follow people or unfollow /block if need be. Also the email address on the twitter account does not direct to Harlots Parlour and of course we cannot change any information.

Harlots Parlour is therefore moving to @HarlotsP

I would therefore like to ask everyone to move across to this new twitter account and to delete the old @Harlots_Parlour account. For the next month or so I will post in both accounts but obviously the sooner we can move everyone across the better.
The new Harlots twitter account hopefully will allow more information to be posted as I invite authors and contributors to post links to posts, Blogs and information relating to sex work and sex positivity around the world.

Harlots is also looking for new writers or for bloggers who wish to cross post in order to increase their audience and more importantly to share experiences and information. Harlots is not the property of one person but a forum for all sex workers.

Harlots is especially looking for the following voices which are seldom heard in the sex worker debates:

Sex Workers who have experience of street work,

Sex Workers who work through third parties,

Managers willing to talk about their experiences,

Harlots is a space for all sex workers to reference their experiences of sex work regardless of how they work, their politics, their race or their gender.

Thank You,
Douglas Fox
Catherine Stephens….

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Hello,

Just to keep Harlots Parlour readers informed that our Home Office funding has expired and we’re currently running the National Ugly Mugs (NUM) Scheme on funding reserves as we wait for responses to funding bids and other sources of income.

The UKNSWP, including myself as NUM Manager, have been extremely vocal in advocating for sex worker rights, including opposing proposals for further criminalisation in Scotland and Northern Ireland both formally and in the national media. The UKNSWP is also vocally urging police forces nationally to recognise crimes against sex workers as hate crime and have delivered police training to five UK police forces highlighting the negative consequences of enforcement and raising awareness about sex work.

Some outcomes and successes

Criminal Justice outcomes: none were anticipated in the pilot phase due to the length of time it usually takes from an offence to the conviction of the offender but the Scheme has been instrumental in the identification, arrest and imprisonment of eight serial offenders.

Our independent evaluation found that NUM alerts had resulted in 18.1% of sex workers changing their practices in some way; 15.7% refusing appointments or avoiding specific individuals. 40.7% of sex workers agreed that now NUM exists the police are more likely to take violent crimes against sex workers seriously and 62.7% are more likely to report violent crimes to the police.

NUM has also developed strong links with escort advertising sites and links to existing alert schemes within the industry. Membership continues to increase with up to ten new members per day, mostly private or independent sex workers.

Given the clear successes of the scheme and he impact it has had in a short pilot phase it would be a real tragedy if we ran out of funding before responses to these bids/opportunities are received.

1. UKNSWP is already using limited reserves and funds raised to continue till end of May.

2. 15 funding bids have been submitted to a range of trust funds/grant giving bodies. Decision dates vary.

3. A letter has been sent to all PC commissioners and all Cheif Constables from ACPO lead for Adult Sexual Offences – these will be followed up by a request for funding donations from UKNSWP and meetings with a range of forces.

How can you help??

· Make a donation directly to NUM by following the link on the front page of the NUM website http://www.uknswp.org/um/ or emailing us on uglymugs@uknswp.org.uk.

· Buy NUM merchandise (hoodies, t-shirts, bags, condoms, mugs and more).

· We are also registered as an eBay charity so you can sell your goods and donate the proceeds to UKNSWP and it will go directly to fund NUM.

· Write to your local Police and Crime Commissioner.

· We are also asking for donations and sponsorship from escort sites so please email the administrators of sites where you’re registered asking them to contribute!

Also, if you have any creative suggestions for fundraising please let us know!

Thank you for the support!

An example of recent publicity for the NUM is http://www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/scheme-aimed-stopping-attacks-sex-2586435

Best wishes,

Alex Bryce
NUM Manager
National Ugly Mugs Scheme

An example of how this scheme is working in practice is shown in this email from a sex worker who has given her permission for her email to be published:

The news that the National Ugly Mugs Scheme is under threat because of lack of funding has hit me hard.

After I was attacked in the street, the last thing I wanted to do was contact the police.

I wasn’t working at the time – but that didn’t matter. Calling the police was out of the question.

But I needed to tell someone…it was too hard to hold inside me.

That’s when I heard about the NUM scheme and that’s when I contacted them.

I filled out their detailed report form with as much information as I could remember about the rape. It’s amazing how quickly your mind closes over…tries to forget…so the comprehensive list of questions was so much more helpful than just providing a general description of what happened.

It was quite a shock when they sent me the finished product: how it would look on the website. There it all was, in black and white – committed to record.

I didn’t want to think about it once that was done – what NUM did with my information or where it would go. But after the recent reports on BBC News I know that my answers to all those detailed questions will be examined and cross-referenced and you never know….he might be caught.

And in the meantime, I can still use the number check system on NUM.

But if the funding disappears, I can’t.

And he’ll be in a much better position to attack again.

Follow NUM project on twitter: http://twitter.com/NationalUglyMug”

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CAN YOU HELP?

I am putting together research for a book based on this Blog with the working title “Harlots.”

In “Harlots” I want to talk about our industry in a way that is approachable to the general public. I want to answer the questions that the public may ask of sex workers.

I can obviously give my own answers and I can give examples from the many sex workers I have known over the years but to broaden the range of experiences I would be grateful if anyone would like to share their own personal experiences for use in the book.

Anything used will of course be done so as anonymous (unless you specify otherwise) and I do not need great detailed explanations (unless you want to be heavily featured of course)

The questions I am researching at the moment are:

How did you become involved in sex work?

Why have you stayed in sex work?

Did you worry or do you worry over morality/religion in your decision to be a sex worker.

How do you react to “But what about the wife/boyfriend/husband” question?

What do you say to “Is it really sleazy”

If you could help by giving answers to any of these questions with some brief details ie how long you have been in the industry, which part of the UK/world you work etc I would be very grateful.

Please email at dfharlot@googlemail.com or dearharlot@googlemail.com

Thank You,

Douglas.

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In my defense. . .

Reblogged from danoconnell1815:

I must admit I have to be pretty pissed to stick my neck out and become very vocal about something. Now don’t get me wrong, I have many strong opinions, but I usually keep them to myself unless I am writing a check or defending something so obviously wrong that it brings my blood to a boil. I can actually tolerate a lot, in fact I have been sitting on my hands for about 6 months but I can’t anymore.

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A perspective we don't often hear about. The view of the client. Here an American client defends his visits to sex workers. Like many clients they don't see themselves as the wicked misogynistic demons portrayed by the prohibitionists.

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The death of Baroness Thatcher has apparently polarised opinion in the UK. There are those who believe that she was a national heroine and those who take a very different view. In one sense this is a sign of a great leader. Only a great leader can stir such emotions. What has been a shock however has been the vitriol of those who oppose her political views. This vitriol has gone beyond disagreement on a political level to often quite shameful and misogynistic insults. I noticed some leftist sex worker rights activists, some who probably where not even alive during her eleven and a half years of premiership, were especially vile. Terms like Tory scum were used and even worse insults directed at the dead Baroness and those who shared if not all then some of her political values and beliefs.

I wondered if these people ever thought that some of their fellow sex workers and sex worker activists may be Tory or were they inferring that to be a sex worker or at least a sex worker activists then you have to at the very least publically adhere to a leftist vocabulary. I also wonder if these people ever stop to think about the real industry they speak for, the industry outside the cosy little world of organised activism.

I have been involved in the sex industry for over fifteen years and in activism for probably over ten. During that time I have enjoyed the best the industry has to offer but I have been arrested twice and almost had my life destroyed. Despite that I love the industry. My ten years of activism however has on occasion been an ordeal. It would have been easier and certainly would have favoured my activism career to have adopted a leftist vocabulary, to have spoken of working on the streets, to identify with migrant sex workers, to have pretended an identity (and many do) with some imagined working class militancy. I did not. It would have been dishonest not only to my self but to the people I work with and the industry I work in. This has nothing to do with politics, the fact I am a Tory (actually more libertarian) is irrelevant but what is relevant is that I work within an industry that encapsulates entrepreneurialism, capitalism, free enterprise, self interest. All those things that the left says it is against.

I do not live in some gilded cage, some privileged world. I live in the North east of England, labour party territory. I meet with, socialise with and work with sex workers from every social class. From students to trainee doctors to single parents on benefits to migrants who hardly speak a work of English. They probably share all types of religious and political affiliations and allegiances. The one thing they all have in common is the shared desire to get on in life. They all turn to sex work as a means to an end or perhaps as a career. All of them, every single one of them wants to better themselves and to help their families. It does not matter if they want to sell sex to put food on the table or buy designer hand bags, the shared common denominator, the shared truth and reality is they want to make their lives better, easier. Sex work provides that means to an end.

The truth is that I know lots of people whom the left tells us they care about. I know single mothers who sell sex and do so not because they think their benefits are too low but because they do not want to be trapped by benefits. They want to work but they realise that their situation does not make “regular work” easy. They want to work hours that accommodates their family situation. Sex work provides that flexibility and pays comparatively well. Migrant sex workers, another group of workers that the left exploit on both sides of the sex work debate, only turn to sex work because sex work provides them with income, cash in hand, sex work allows them to realise their desire for a better life for them and for their families. They are not victims of sex work but rather exploiters who manipulate a social need for their own benefit. When Lucca for example (chosen for no particular reason) who heads the SWOU project proclaims in an “interview” his migrant and street work credentials he is telling the world what? That he is some sort of victim? That he shares some working class solidarity and his sex work is a reflection of his oppression? That may be the political message he chooses but in reality, like so many others he took an opportunity when it was presented and chose to exploit his abilities and his clients needs for his own benefit, in other words capitalism. This is sex work, this is our industry and we should be proud of what we are and who we are and what our industry stands for which is opportunity in a society where so many restrictions smother the entrepreneurial spirit that allows individuals, especially those from less privileged back grounds to succeed.

On the left the language is one of worker solidarity and against exploitation and they talk of unionisation as though it were the answer to every problem. They lament that so few sex workers are involved in “their” class struggle and point to India and South America where sex worker unions and groups have memberships of thousands. Those countries however have a very different cultural heritage. In the west, ever since the enlightenment, society has recognised and applauded individualism and sex work in the west represents that individualism. Individualism, self motivation is something activism neglects to praise, almost as though it is ashamed of the most important force that drives our industry, makes it survive and makes it succeed.

Those who have vilified Baroness Thatcher and all Tories, including sex worker Tories as scum forget that Baroness Thatcher, most certainly with out knowing, exemplified the individualism inherent within sex work. Sex workers share a strong Raison d’être with working class families who bought their council homes and sold them for a profit, who bought their first shares and sold them for a profit and who created their little business that grew into big businesses. These people are the cultural allies with whom every sex worker shares a common heritage and they are the people who, if engaged, will give us the support we need to achieve our goal of decriminalisation.

Historically, politically and morally the left has proven that it cannot help sex workers. State collectivism, state imposed morality and ideals of societal behaviour that expects collective rather than individual responses cannot easily find common cause with sex work no matter how much any individual may want it. Sex work is too much an expression of self both in the act and in the desire.

Personal politics are just that. Those on the left may think they are morally superior and have a stronger desire for civil liberties but the desire for freedom which is the root of civil liberty, the root of freedom is equally strong on the right, perhaps even more so. Thatcher did many things wrong, she introduced clause 28, she introduced the poll tax and I could go on but she also created a society unafraid of and supportive of enterprise. As a nation we had lost that. Anyone who remembers the 70s will have little affection for what trade unionism did to this country.

I understand how it must gall the left that the greatest advocates of sex worker rights and civil liberties such as gay marriage comes from the libertarian right. Personally I don’t understand why that is any surprise. If you have read the history of socialism in the UK especially you will understand the orthodox Christian roots of socialism.

In conclusion can we have less talk of Tory scum and more celebration of our industry? Can we discuss what we want from decriminalisation? Can we discuss how we want our industry to evolve? Can we have less discrimination and more creative thinking? Can we celebrate our shared heritage within sex work? There is much we can agree on if we put our minds to better use than name calling.

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This is just a little part of my response to the new moralism which I am exploring in “Harlots” a new book based on this blog
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As a child of the sixties and seventies I remember well the expectation associated with the idealism of sexual liberation. It was hoped that men and women would be able to enjoy sex and to find sexual happiness with out the centuries old stigmas of guilt and shame. For some this has been true. The recognition of Gay and Lesbian people has superficially in the west at least signalled a significant advance in social liberalism and it could be argued that the relaxation of obscenity laws has recognised a libertarian desire among ordinary people to be their own moral arbitrators of taste and decency. In theory libertarians like my self should have much to celebrate except what little sexual freedom we have is now under threat, in danger. Sexual liberty as a right is not yet sufficiently ingrained within our western society’s consciousness that it cannot be easily snuffed out.

In the west orthodox monotheists’ despair at the influence of secularism with some justification, the west has grown weary of organised religion. Its sins, from paedophile priests to shady financial and political shenanigans are too publicly known. This loss of public trust in the institutions does not however negate the continued influence of orthodox monotheistic notions of morality which remain enshrined within our legislative structures as well as our politics and even within our media.

Few of course who speak against sexual freedom within the modern debate now infer age old notions or ideals of morality. Times they understand have changed and so has their use of language. Politicians, the media, the religious have adapted a new language of sexual repression to fit within modern ideologues of right and wrong. The most influential and oppressive of these modern ideologies has been a corruption within the feminist movement. A contagion of repression has been adopted by a powerful and privileged clique of unrepresentative but never the less influential women. These women have provided a new framework for sexual oppression by supplying a “new moral” justification for repressive legislation. Pornography and prostitution they argue are no longer just immoral, degrading or corrupting but rather they are the vehicles of oppression of “all” women and children. The moral war they argue is no longer a war to save souls from the evils of the flesh but rather it is a war to achieve gender equality, to stop the “sexualisation” of children (whatever that really means).

This is a crusade that has provided justification for the religious right and the politically correct left to find common ground in persecuting sexual liberty. Together they have created a language of oppression that has recharged the tired rhetoric of moralism. The age old idea of saving the” fallen woman” remains however very much a reality behind the political posturing about “prostituted women.” Women (rarely are male prostitutes mentioned) so called feminists argue have to be saved by using the full terror of the law and regardless of their wishes. Women who disagree they argue are either mad, being paid by pimps or are totally unrepresentative. The state these so called feminists insist has to impose by force their ideal of right behaviour for women (and men.)
We hear the excuse for oppression is that sex is special, sex we are told cannot be purchased because you are purchasing a body. What they are really saying however is that sexual consent is only valid within prescribed behavioural norms sanctioned by the state. Sex is not they argue a human right because your body does not belong to you but to them. This is old moralism wearing new shiny clothes?

Sexual liberty is very precious and it is very fragile. We must remember that the battles sexual libertarians have won are tiny. There was no real sexual revolution and as we have already seen in some states even those minor sexual liberties, the right to look at some images, the right to choose who you can have sex with are slowly being taken away. It is often being done very cleverly, almost surreptitiously. The Swedish legislation criminalising clients for example was part of a much larger bill and some argued that it was deliberately hidden.

The argument used that the loss of a few sexual images, the sacrifice of some sexual choices is bearable if our children are safe or if women and men are to become equal (whatever that means in reality) will sound attractive to some. The moralists are very clever in their emotional use of language. The truth however is that the real language that is used to justify this moralism is inherently violent and oppressive and insulting. Women are told repeatedly that they are victims and that they need the state to protect then from men who are universally vilified as rapists, as misogynistic monsters out to oppress all women and girls. Boys especially the new moralists argue have to be re educated.

There is no joy in the language of this new moralism just as there was none in the old moralism. It is the language of oppression and of coerced and prescribed behaviour. It is the language of destroyed lives, as it was in the past and as it is now and as it wants to be in the future.

The libertarian argument is about challenging the inherent moralism behind this new language of hate. The human sexual imagination is something we should celebrate. Sexual equality is not defined by the joy given by another’s human body but rather in our celebration of individuality and uniqueness. The state has no authority over the body of any individual only a duty to afford it protection if and when that individual requires protection. There is much the state could do to protect individual rights. Denying my ownership of my body and denying my right to view images of other consenting adults will not facilitate gender equality but it will deny a shared joy in humanity.

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This is something that was inspired by the diatribe of bullshit I have dealt with from non sex worker feminists as of late. To be honest, I have all but given up on feminism. Feminism doesn’t want me or people like me, people who refuse to allow them to appropriate our realities in support of their own ideology. Although I am very close to discarding this identity label altogether, I am hoping that at some point feminists are going to get their shit together about sex work and stop deliberately pushing us out when we won’t play by their rules. That is why I wrote this little ten point list. This is by no means comprehensive but hopefully it is a starting point for a true pro sex worker feminism, with space for us in it.

Identify yourself as a non sex-worker

This is such a common tactic of feminists who want to silence sex workers, but in addition to silencing us, it forces us to identify ourselves which puts us directly in harm’s way – just for wanting to make our voices heard in supposedly feminist spaces. What the women who do this fail to realize is that we are risking our relationships, our jobs (particularly if we are studying or work a second non-sex worker job) and even custody of our children for disclosing our sex worker status. This is not something that non-sex worker feminists need to face. The only reason a non-sex worker feminist has for not disclosing her status is that she wants to speak over those who actually have lived experience in sex work. A true feminist space must insist that everyone participating in a discussion about sex work identify as a non sex-worker upfront and allow actual sex workers to participate without their disclosing their status; the assumption being that unless one states that they are not a sex worker, they are. This allows us to participate while having our direct experience acknowledged without forcing us to actually out ourselves and risk having our whole lives ruined because of it.

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